CBT: Cock & Ball Torment is a welcoming workshop for those interested in CBT work by oneself or with a friend. It covers CBT safety, shows some gear, suggests techniques and – in person -- provides a demonstration.

Why

Many guys enjoy some flavor of CBT. I am personally wired for it: The first time I experienced an orgasm was during what I’d now describe as CBT play as a kid. Since I’d never felt that way before, I thought the CBT play was the (only) way to get there. I repeated it over and over in the following months.

Curious about additional potential benefits we get from having risky, edgy, sexy play? Read The Good of BDSM.

Acknowledgements

A huge thank-you to my friend, author and presenter Hardy Haberman for his book Family Jewels: a guide to male genital play and torment (Greenery Press 2001). Re-reading the clear writing and playful, sexy vignettes were helpful for organizing my thoughts for this workshop. Highly recommended!

Thanks, too, for the contributors to Wikipedia.org for help with the anatomy section.

Male Genital Anatomy

The annotations above can be difficult to read at different resolutions.
Here is what they say, top to bottom:

LEFT	RIGHT
bladder	sigmoid colon
pubic bone	rectum
Suspensory ligament of penis	seminal vesicle
puboprostatic ligament	ejaculatory duct
perineal membrane	prostate gland
external urethral sphincter	Cowper’s gland
penis	anus
corpus cavernosum	vas deferens
glans penis	epididymis
foreskin	testis
urethral opening	scrotum

by Male_anatomy.png: alt.sex FAQderivative work: Tsaitgaist (talk) - *[[:File:Male_anatomy.png|Male_anatomy.png], CC BY-SA 3.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=6569849

The male reproductive system consists of a number of sex organs that play a role in the process of human reproduction. These organs are located on the outside of the body and within the pelvis.

The main male sex organs are the penis and the testicles which produce semen and sperm,

External genital organs

External male genital organs

Penis

The penis is the male intromittent organ. It has a long shaft and an enlarged bulbous-shaped tip called the glans penis, which supports and is protected by the foreskin. When the male becomes sexually aroused, the penis becomes erect and ready for sexual activity. Erection occurs because sinuses within the erectile tissue of the penis become filled with blood. The arteries of the penis are dilated while the veins are compressed so that blood flows into the erectile cartilage under pressure. The penis is supplied by the pudendal artery.

Scrotum

The scrotum is a pouch-like structure that hangs behind the penis. It holds and protects the testicles. It also contains numerous nerves and blood vessels. During times of lower temperatures, the Cremaster muscle contracts and pulls the scrotum closer to the body, while the Dartos muscle gives it a wrinkled appearance; when the temperature increases, the Cremaster and Dartos muscles relax to bring down the scrotum away from the body and remove the wrinkles respectively.

The scrotum remains connected with the abdomen or pelvic cavity by the inguinal canal. (The spermatic cord, formed from spermatic artery, vein and nerve bound together with connective tissue passes into the testis through inguinal canal.)

Internal genital organs

Image showing innervation and blood-supply of the human external male genitalia.

By Dr. Johannes Sobotta - Atlas and Text-book of Human Anatomy Volume III Vascular System, Lymphatic system, Nervous system and Sense Organs, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=29135497

Testis

Testis has two major functions: To produce sperm by meiotic division of germ cells within the seminiferous tubules,^[1] and to synthesize and secrete androgens that regulate the male reproductive functions. The site of production of androgens is the Leydig cells that are located in the interstitium between seminoferous tubules.^[1]

Epididymis

The epididymis is a long whitish mass of tightly coiled tube. The sperm that are produced in the seminiferous tubules flow into the epididymis. During passage via the epididymis, the sperm undergo maturation and are concentrated by the action of ion channels located on the apical membrane of the epithelium.^[2]

Vas deferens

The vas deferens, also known as the sperm duct, is a thin tube approximately 30 centimetres (0.98 ft) long that starts from the epididymis to the pelvic cavity. It carries the spermatozoa from the epididymis to ejaculatory duct.

Accessory glands

Three accessory glands provide fluids that lubricate the duct system and nourish the sperm cells. They are

Seminal vesicles

Prostate gland

Bulbourethral glands (Cowper glands)

Wikipedia contributors. (2019, August 7). Male reproductive system. In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 12:54, September 16, 2019, from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_reproductive_system

By Irvin H. Hirsch MD, Sidney Kimmel Medical College of Thomas Jefferson University

CBT approaches & safety

Constriction

the action of making something narrower by pressure or of becoming narrower; tightening

Constriction, stretching and compression approaches restrict blood circulation. When on for a while, the related nerves seem to stop signaling pain. (Also, damage from blood flow loss may result from extended or particularly intense approaches.) It can be intense when blood returns and the nerve signals pain again.

Cock rings

These are rings that go around the cock and balls, keeping a bit more blood there. They can be made of many things, but especially common are leather, metal and rubbery styles.

Cockring

Rope

Here in particular I’m talking about thinner ropes wrapped multiple times around the genitals to bind them.

Straps

Same as above, but made perhaps of leather or latex.

Stretching

Ball stretchers

This gear wraps around the ball sack, pressing the balls lower. Many guys find them a nice reminder of their nuts. Some have D-ring attachment points to add weights.

Ball stretchers

Parachute harnesses

This gear also wraps around the ball sack in a parachute fashion, pressing the balls lower. Typically there will be chains hanging down to an attachment point at which weights may be hung.

Parachute harness

Weights

To add more awareness of the ball stretcher or parachute.

Weights

Compression

flattened by pressure; squeezed or pressed together

Elastic “ACE” bandages

Ball crushers

Ball crusher (chrome)

Clothespins

Impact (slapping, flogging, beating)

Hitting or striking with the hand/fingers or an implement.

One important safety feature pointed out to me by someone who attended my first CBT presentation: There is a significant vein that runs along the area behind the balls toward the asshole. It is possible to cause internal bleeding from a CBT scene, especially when kneeing in the groin. Try to avoid this. Seek medical attention if you or your partner piss blood after taking a knee (or other blunt force) to the groin.

Pressure

Puncture

Puncture approaches / temporary piercings -- sterile needles -- open holes into the body. There is some risk of infection. That risk can be minimized with sterile or clean technique.

Temperature

Friction

Teasing & tickling

e-stim

Ball crusher (electrifiable)

Folsom Electric Cock & Ball Torture Board
P.E.S. Sparkler Electrodes (a single electrode device)
P.E.S. Deep Throat (a dual electrode device) What a beautiful piece of gear. Go to the P.E.S. site to read how cool the configuration options are -- and see it in action with a couple of other pieces of cock gear that look fun, the single electrode Mid Ring and Base Ring!
P.E.S. Corona Cockhead Stimulator (a single electrode device).

FYIs

Hands

Useful for many aspects of CBT play – especially little nuances of pressure -- hands are at the ready.

Urethral sounds

“Sounding” is a specialized urethral cock play that deserves its own presentation so I won’t cover it here.

Needles / CBT butterfly boards

I’ve done this fun, bonding experience with each of my long-term slaves and we’ve had a good time with it. It involved receiving specialized training in temporary piercing on my part. If interested I urge you to seek that training out.

Endorphins and aftercare

Intense physical play of many sorts can create endorphins. These are naturally occurring pain-suppressing chemicals in the body. They can also lead to feelings of peacefulness, euphoria. (Runners have called it “Runners’ high” for many years.) When many endorphins are released at once, this is often referred to as an “endorphin rush.” The removal of constriction, stretching and compression will result in a resurgence of blood to the area and this can feel rather intense. Some people respond similarly to sterile needles. All those can cause a release of endorphins.

There is a duty for the Top in a scene to prepare for and look after the person it is working with: People can faint. Bondage can secure a person. Quick-release clamps, if the person is in standing bondage (think tied to a cross), can help release the person for lowering. Another approach is to do removal when the bottom is laying down, as then the bottom is already safely on the ground.

The duty to look after the bottom extends to after the scene, commonly called aftercare. With a CBT scene and possible endorphin rush, there are some things to consider: Thinking may be fuzzy for a while. Depth perception (think driving; even parking) may be off for a while. One way to help address these considerations is to include wind-down time in a scene. A favorite? Holding. It’s a very bonding time.

Getting more informed

Reading

Family Jewels: a guide to male genital play and torment by Hardy Haberman (Greenery Press, Gardena CA, 2001)

Viewing

If CBT is an interest, I highly recommend the videos by Roger of Shotgun Video at www.shotgunvideo.com. Hot, sexy, controlled working over of men’s balls.

Web sites

· CBT: Cock and Ball Torture https://fetlife.com/groups/2845 includes the helpful sticky CBT Safety and First Aid https://fetlife.com/groups/2845/group_posts/6132662

· Cock and ball torture https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cock_and_ball_torture

· caryl's BDSM Page at www.drkdesyre.com is a vast trove of information, particularly about dating

· Jack Rinella's www.LeatherViews.com has extensive writings on a broad variety of topics under the Kinky Info tab

· OfficerWes.com will get you to the information I've compiled about leather and spirituality, cathartic flogging, CBT, the good of BDSM, Dominance and submission, Mastery and slavery, uniforms, erotic electricity, things that pinch, making a rope harness, dungeon parties, our leather family, and more -- but be sure to check out the concise, external Leather/SM Resources

The five senses

Touch

Sight

Hearing

Smell

Taste

Processing pain

Breathing

long-deep breathing can help

Relaxing

Focusing

Visualizing

The Top can influence things

Applying

1. How things are applied (by example, Jack Rinella relays that in applying clothespins that “…if you start in less sensitive areas, such as the chest, your bottom will last longer.” Clips & Clamps, p.53)

2. Pauses

3. Quiet

4. Predicament bondage (by example, movement in one area creates a challenge in another area, sometimes done by tying two or more things together)

During

1. Touching

2. Twisting

3. Removing one or more

4. Replacing one or more

5. Time to adjust, including pauses and breaks

6. Feedback, such as “Three more”

Removing

1. Opening vs. pulling

2. Tempo of removal

3. Distraction

4. Simultaneous removal from different areas such as via zippers and nets

5. Giving a head’s up that one or more are about to be removed

Ways to nurture surrender

Intention

Increase trust in your partner

Time

Experiences

Reputation

Bondage

Blindfolds can reduce distractions

Ambience

Dungeon

Music

Privacy

Temperature

Lighting

Fun

Exploring

Laughter

Sustenance

Water

Snack(s) / food

There is little more distracting than being hungry. I try to keep an easy snack on hand for if the scene goes on for a while. There are 110-calorie “Carb Boom!” packs that I find a great source of fast, easy energy

Ways to vary a theme

Placement

Duration

Adjustable / not

Pressure

Chains and other joiners

Weights

Patterns

Think symmetry

Colors

Red and black are some personal favorites for BDSM art

Number

Biting / not

Movement

Predicament bondage (particularly where something is secured to something else)

Touch

Tickling

Walking / crawling

Mystery

Removal styles

Getting gear

Kink stores

Locally (San Diego, California area)

Pleasures & Treasures, 2525 University Ave., 619-822-4280 www.pandtstore.com

Barnett Avenue Adult Superstore, 3610 Barnett Ave., 619-224-0187

Online

Extreme Restraints www.extremerestraints.com

Mr. S Leather www.mr-s-leather.com

Hardware stores

Clothespins (Home Depot, 99 Only store. Daiso has plastic figure clothesclamps like kitties. Walmart, Big Lots did not have clothespins when we checked.)

Kitchen supply stores

Spatulas

Office supply stores

Binders

Medical supply stores

Needles and supplies (local regulations apply)

Bait and tackle / sporting goods stores

Weights, such as those found at Bass Pro Shops

Communicating and negotiating

Clear, respectful communication, part I

Here's an example:
Sir/ma’am: You having a fun, hot experience is very important. There is one issue I need to communicate so that you can make informed decisions. I take aspirin for my heart health and as a result I tend to bruise easily. If you could work in a way that might minimize bruising I’d really appreciate it. Thank you, Sir/ma’am!

Clear, respectful communication, part II

The leather tribe works with power.
Many folks do it well and with style.
The tribe does have a history, however, of friendly fire -- eating our own.
My observation is that we can each help contain these fires with these actions:

· When disagreements happen, and they will, be respectful

· Discreet, constructive input is helpful

· Avoid gossip

Negotiating

Dan Kalin was my leather mentor. He was the first person who came up to me at a leather bar, circa 1988, and said "I want to tie you up." My response was along the lines of "That's nice. Perhaps some other time." Dan seemed to intuitively know that I was afraid. He stayed and we talked. I started asking questions such as "Would you stop if I asked?" (His answer was the intriguing: "Yes, but I won't start again.") "Could there be a time limit?" (He said it depended. I inquired why. He explained that it took a while to tie someone up, and if the time were too short that would mean that untying would come shortly after, and that wouldn’t be worth his time.) When I became better versed in the leather community I realized that what we had done was negotiate a scene. I made the leap of faith and went with him to the Brotherhood of Pain dungeon. It was deliciously sinister. Ah, the first time at anything: Those were some of the hottest four hours of my life.

Other resources

About our leather family

"boys" and "slaves"

Cathartic flogging

CBT: Cock & Ball Torment (this presentation)

Dominance and submission

Leather and spirituality

Leather/SM resources

Mastery and slavery

Nine Degrees Of Submission

Protocol

Rope harness

San Diego

Shit: Exploring An Ancient Taboo

Things That Pinch

Uniforms

About

Officer Wes has been presenting on a variety of fun kink topics for over twenty years. Officer Wes has an open leather family built around shared values of respect, honor, trust, and love. He has a slave and dogslave and is himself in service to a Daddy. Resources and information at www.officerwes.com

The long version…

Officer Wes entered his first leather bar in 1980. He has examined and shared on issues of sexual expression and other areas of the human experience for much of his life. His experiences and viewpoints have appeared in many publications including USA Today and The Advocate. He judges regional and international contests and presents programs and workshops on Master/slave and Daddy/boy relationships, spirituality and leather, great sex, pain and pleasure, uniforms, fetish, shit, interrogation, electricity, things that pinch, and other aspects of the BDSM arts at clubs and events across the country. He is credited as an influence in the books Protocol Handbook for the Leather Slave and Master/slave Relations. His Web sites on sexuality, health and kink stand as a resource for others seeking to live in integrity with their authentic selves and have been visited by over a quarter of a million people.

Officer Wes was an inaugural mentor for SAADE, the School for Advanced American Dominant Education, a formal mentoring program for new dominants that instructs its apprentices not only in physical SM practices but on the mental, emotional and spiritual dynamics of BDSM as well. He served on the host committee for Living in Leather VIII, was an inaugural core member of San Diego's private men's BDSM group SuperPigs, and is an Associate Member of the Chicago Hellfire Club.

Officer Wes has an open leather family built around shared values of respect, honor, trust, and love. He has a slave, a dogslave and is himself in service to a Daddy. More information about Officer Wes and family can be found at www.officerwes.com.