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Officer Wes' personal journey of leather heart & spirit
Upcoming
- 5/2024 Newport Beach with family
- 9/2024 Delto or Inferno with slave frank
About
Officer Wes has been presenting on a variety of fun kink topics for 30 years. His experiences and viewpoints have appeared in many publications including USA Today and The Advocate. He is credited as an influence in the books Protocol Handbook for the Leather Slave and Master/slave Relations. His Web sites on sexuality, health and kink have been visited by over a million people. He was an inaugural mentor for SAADE, a formal mentoring program for new dominants that instructs its apprentices not only in physical SM practices but on the mental, emotional and spiritual dynamics of BDSM as well. Officer Wes has an open leather family built around shared values of respect, honor, trust, and love. He has a slave and dogslave and is himself in service to a Daddy. Resources and information at www.officerwes.com
Public leather community work
- Daddy Barry, Officer Wes, dog bobby and slave frank talked about “Leather” for the podcast Vanilla with a Side of Kink, October 23, 2023
- Daddy Barry, Officer Wes, dog bobby, slave frank & slave frank’s husband presented “Poly Leather Families” in the San Diego Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride, July 16, 2023
- co-facilitated, with Jerry Moreau, a virtual discussion "How are you doing and coping in these Shelter-In-Place COVID times?" for FetishMenSanDiego May 20, 2020
- Officer Wes co-facilitated, with Jerry Moreau, a virtual discussion "How are you doing and coping in these Shelter-In-Place COVID times?" for FetishMenSanDiego May 20, 2020
- Things That Pinch presentation for FetishMenSanDiego, served by slave frank, February 22, 2020
- Cock & Ball Torture ("CBT") presentation for FetishMenSanDiego, assisted by dogslave bobby and slave frank, September 18, 2019
- Electrical presentation for FetishMenSanDiego, assisted by slave frank, September 4, 2019
- Electrical presentation in San Diego Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride, assisted by slave frank, July 13, 2019
- Electrical for FetishMenSanDiego at Pleasures and Treasures, served by dogslave bobby and slave frank, June 19, 2019
- Electrical presentation in San Diego Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride, served by dogslave bobby, July 14, 2018
- Focus presentation: Helping a slave focus and High-End Electrical presentation served by slave frank at SouthPlains Leatherfest - International Master/slave Weekend, March 8-12, 2018
- Presentation on kink for a Symposium on Therapy and Alt-Sexuality: Kink and Ethical Polyamory by the Center for Community Counseling & Engagement of the University of California San Diego, helped by Daddy Barry and slave frank, February 3, 2018
- Hands-on electrical for FetishMenSanDiego event "Kinky Petting Zoo", January 14, 2018. Justin showed me how to hold fire bubbles.
Photo by Scott B. Smith
- Leather 101 presentation for Club X' "BasiX" series, September 25, 2017, helped by Daddy Barry and slave frank, and also attended by frank's slaveboy brendan.
- Clips, Clamps, and Other Pinchers in the San Diego Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride, helped by Daddy Barry and slave frank, July 15, 2017
- Erotic Electrical presentation for San Diego Leather Pride, March 18, 2017
- Two Erotic Electrical presentations for The Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride, July 16-17, 2016
- Uniforms presentation for Club X, September 11, 2014
- A fun electrical presentation for FetishMenSanDiego, March 26, 2014
- Officer Wes arrests Eagle patrons for a Mr. Friendly fundraiser during the Mr. San Diego Eagle 2013 contestant Meet & Greet, February 15, 2013
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- Leather 101 presentation for The Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride, July 22, 2012
- Electrical presentation for Pleasures and Treasures' Info.Sexology series, February 21, 2012
- "Things That Pinch" presentation for The Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride, July 16, 2011
- Erotic Electrical presentation for San Diego League of Gentlemen, May 6, 2011
- Presentation on BDSM Culture for Human Sexual Behaviors class at Mesa College, May 3, 2011
- Leather 101 presentation for San Diego League of Gentlemen, October 1, 2010
- Leather 101 presentation for Club X, August 13, 2009
- Configuring High End Electrical chapter for The Power Exchange Books Resource Series issue on Power Exchange and SM Tools
- Shit: Exploring An Ancient Taboo presentation for SouthPlains Leatherfest - International Master/slave Weekend, serving Daddy Barry, & judge for the International Master/slave Contest, February 21-25, 2008
- Nominated for 2007 Man of the Year for the San Diego Leather Community Awards held February 23, 2008
- Leather 101 presentation for Club X served by slave jay, November 8, 2007
- Electrical presentation for San Diego League of Gentlemen, October 5, 2007
- Leather 101 presentation for The Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride served by slave jay, July 21, 2007
- Officer Wes, Steve "The Hook", Doug "Crazy Eye" & slave jay present on Leather and Spirituality for San Diego League of Gentlemen May 4, 2007
- Leather, Sex and Spirituality at League of Gentlemen May 4 interview by Mark Gabrish Conlan in Zenger's Newsmagazine April 24, 2007
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- Power Play: High End Electrical at SouthPlains Leatherfest - International Master/slave Weekend, served by slave jay, February 23-25, 2007
- "Back to Basics: Electrical" for Club X, assisted by dogslave bobby & slave jay, August 9, 2006
- Leather 101 presentation for The Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride served by dogslave "collared and available" and slave jay, July 29, 2006
- Officer Wes and slave jay receive an excellence in presentation award May 6, 2006, from the Pain Guild for the Things That Pinch presentation the previous summer
- SM102 presentation assisted by slave jay for a Club X Mental Health Forum designed to nurture some Kink And Poly Aware Professionals (KAP) locally, April 28, 2006. This presentation focused on the why of leather (authenticity, surrender, bliss); and also issues that therapists might see in their clinical practice. slave jay also sat on the submissives' panel.
- Nominated for 2005 Man of the Year for the San Diego Leather Community Awards held February 4, 2006
- Master/slave & Daddy/boy relationships presentation for the Pain Guild, August 31, 2005
- Leather 101 presentation for The Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride July 30, 2005
- An experiential evening of "High-End Electrical: Integrating Sight, Sound & Sensation" for Club X, July 14, 2005
- Things That Pinch presentation for the Pain Guild, July 6, 2005
- Leather and Spirituality presentation for Club X (ASL interpreted) November 11, 2004
- Two electrical presentations for San Diego League of Gentlemen: one was a special presentation on high-end electrical work integrating sight & sound with sensation; a second was on the erotic use o
- Leather 101 presentation for The Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride July 31, 2004
- Moderated Great Sex and how to help manifest it at San Diego League of Gentlemen, July 24, 2004
- Leather 101 presentation for San Diego League of Gentlemen, September 24, 2003
- Electrical presentation for the The Leather Realm at San Diego Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Pride, July 26, 2003
- Presented on "The Mana of Fetish: Spiritual Power Made Tangible" at a People in Leather Among You (P.L.A.Y.) gathering April 10, 2003. P.L.A.Y. was a social and support group for Southern California leatherfolk interested in the integration of radical sexuality and spirituality.
- Wrote short reviews for the bimonthly Mastery/slavery newsletter, Collars, October 2002 - June 2003 (when it ceased publication after many years)
- Mentor in SAADE (School for Advanced American Dominant Education)'s Austin Mentors's second group October - December 2002. (The group continued into 2003. I asked to be rolled out of the rotation after December because Tom and I were moving to San Diego in January.) For this second group my mental topic was BDSM & spirituality and the physical skill was "Clamps, Clips & Things that Pinch in the Night / Processing Pain." For more information see the writeup of the inaugural group, three bullets below
- Co-host of Austin's bimonthly men's BDSM/leather party October 2001 - October 2002
- September 13, 2002, Johnan and I co-presented on "Interrogation Scenes" for SAADE
- Electrical presentations in 2002 for Central Texas Couples (a pansexual SIG for couples who live together "24/7" and have some sort of D/s - BDSM in their lives), January 26, 2002, and through mentoring in Austin Mentors with SAADE November 2001- July 2002
- Mentor in SAADE (School for Advanced American Dominant Education)'s Mentors program. This is a very cool communal program to give a new generation of Dominants a broad-based Mentor/apprentice experience. Each of the apprentices gets matched with each of the mentors for one month -- and each of the mentors has something unique s/he brings to the program. The mentors work to convey one mental and one physical skill each month. For the inaugural November 2001- July 2002 group my mental topic was leather relationships and the physical skill was electrical play
- September 1, 2002, Arizona Power Exchange chat on uniforms
- Presented on clothespin zippers for The Austin Gay Leather Social July 10, 2002
- Guest faculty at Arizona Power Exchange's APEX Academy: Carrying on the Butchmanns Tradition, June 28-30, 2002
- Faculty, "boy's Training Camp 3", April 2001
- Dual electrical presentation using both male & female demo-ees for the Group With No Name (GWNN) Birthday Bash "We love to be 8", May 2001
- Electrical presentation for NLA:Dallas' Beyond Vanilla X, 2000
- Presented on incorporating uniform play in the bedroom October 27, 2000, at a joint gathering of the friendly folks of Austin Dominants' Discussion (now called SAADE) and Austin subCulture
- Panelist, NLA:Houston "Dominant/submissive, Master/slave & Daddy/boy seminar" at the Ripcord. Leading the panel was the late Dean Walradt. The other Top presenter besides myself was Ron Hertz. boy don and my slaveboy, tim, assisted. September 12th, 1999
- Faculty, "the Leather Submissive boy Class" (in subsequent years the name was changed to "boy's Training Camp"), May 1999
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- Judge, Mr. Texas Drummer 1999-2000 contest, April 1999 at Pacific Street
- Electrical presentation for NLA:Houston at the Ripcord, 1999
- Here's a fun one: In the Fall of 1998 I helped my friend Rusty Haway emcee a slave-auction fund raiser for Steven's House, a local AIDS hospice. Rusty thought up and organized the event.
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- Electrical presentation for H.E.E.L. (Houston Educates & Encourages Leather) at Pacific Street and for EROS (the Erotic Rose Society), 1998
- Real-life leather relationships
- Daddy Barry 3/2/2005 - present
- bobby 8/13/2005 - present. bobby served as in-town slave 8/13/2005 - 1/24/2007, when we changed our status to Guardianship -- a move to support our quest to find a lover for him at that time. Later that year his official title became "beloved family dog", a longer version of his nickname, "dog". 7/1/2008 dog moved back into his home in Florida after the real estate market tanked and it did not sell during two years on the market. The official charge: "Continue spreading love, dog." dog visited about twice a year for 10 years. Finally in 2018 we were able to get him back to San Diego with Daddy Barry and me as my live-in slave
- slave frank 11/8/2016 - present
- tom 11/26/1991 [less than 6 months as Daddy/boy; over 16 years as peers] - 8/26/2008 (Tom died August 20, 2020)
- boy jay 10/17/2003 - 9/2004, when he changed to slave jay, lasting for almost 4 additional years to 7/13/2008
- boy tim 7/1/1999 - 12/15/2000 [17 months] (boy tim died August 16, 2006)
- slave dave aka "Deputy" 5/17/1998 - 2/23/1999 [9 months]. Deputy continues as a beloved family member
- david 12/22/1997 - 4/9/1998 [4 months]
- marvin 3/1992 [1 month]
Electrical presentation for NLA:Houston as an official Houston GLBT Pride Week event , 1996 Electrical presentation for NLA:Houston as an official Houston GLBT Pride Week event, 1995 Recipient, "Leather Force 2000" patch, 1994 Electrical presentation for The Leather Journal's Pantheon of Leather, 1994 NLA:Houston board member, 1994 Recipient, inaugural "NLA:Houston President's Certificate of Appreciation" 'for support and contributions to NLA:Houston during our third year, 1993-1994'" Electrical presentation for NLA:Houston as an official Houston GLBT Pride Week event , 1993 On the organizing committee for NLA International's Living in Leather (LIL) VIII in Houston, 1993 NLA:Houston liaison to Houston PEP (HPEP), 1993 NLA:Houston PEM (public, education, media) chair, 1993 Present when Houston PEP was born, 1992
Leather events / workshops / presentations / retreats I've attended, and other milestones
- May 2022, Officer and dog at Deputy & Chris' for dog's "60th" birthday, celebrating with special sandwiches
- August 28, 2021 FetishMenSanDiego welcomes fully vaccinated men for a social at "Joe and Ed's Place"
- July 31, 2021, FetishMenSanDiego welcomes fully vaccinated men for a social and play party at San Diego's "Tom's Place"
- July 3, 2021, Daddy Barry has cervical spine laminoplasty; repairing deteriorated neck bones.
- April 26, 2021, after years of unrelenting back pain and having tried everything else available, Daddy Barry has a spinal cord stimulator installed in his back. It drops his pain by about 60%. We are thrilled.
- Spring 2020 - Spring 2021, COVID-19 pandemic unvaccinated period. The leather and bio families form pods and shelter in place. With the leather family this allows us to safely gather throughout the pandemic for Saturday dinner/game/movie night, and one-on-one time.
- January 25, 2020, Travis presents Floggers and Single Tails for FetishMenSanDiego
January 22, 2020, Papa Tony's Farewell Party at Di Mille's Italian Restaurant
- January 15, 2020, leather care & boot blacking by Pup Rowdy for FetishMenSanDiego
- December 4, 2019, Sir Francis & slave nick present mummification for FetishMenSanDiego
- November 20, 2019, Heavy metal bondage and other restraints by Sir SD Michael at FetishMenSanDiego
- July 17, 2019, Leather, Kink and/or Fetishes Q&A panel at FetishMenSanDiego
- May 15, 2019, Rope Bondage workshop by Sir Francis at FetishMenSanDiego
- February 16, 2019, the family attends the Leather Fetish Ball
- January 12, 2019, SlaveMaster presents Intentional Flogging and Daddy Barry receives his first long-term flogging
- January 10-13, 2019, Deputy & Chris visit town and get to meet slave frank and his slave damian over a family brunch
- May 2018: Daddy Barry, Officer Wes and dog buy and move into a larger place together
- February 9-17, 2018: Daddy Barry flies out to "Fetch That Dog!" -- to help dog move back to San Diego by driving cross-country with him
- January 5-14, 2018: Daddy Barry helps dog with move by packing his house before dog's return to San Diego
- October 31 - November 5, 2017: Daddy Barry and I go meet dog's family before he moves to San Diego for the three of us to live together
- October 21, 2017: hook pull RITUAL STEEL -An Xtreme Tribal Experience by Club X San Diego and Edgewalkers with Daddy Barry and slave frank
- September 30, 2017: Fire 201 presentation, with slave frank, by Justin for FetishMen SanDiego
- September 27, 2017: 20th anniversary of Officer & Deputy meeting during Folsom Street Fair weekend, 9/27/1997
- August 31 - September 5, 2017: Daddy Barry at DELTA International
- June 2-10, 2017, Daddy Barry takes a long 8-day ride through the desert via Palm Springs, Phoenix, Tucson and Yuma.
- April 26, 2017, our police Harley arrives.
- March 16-20, 2016, San Diego Leather Pride Weekend
- March 10-13, 2016, SouthPlains Leatherfest - International Master/slave Weekend
- February 25 - 27, 2011, SouthPlains Leatherfest - International Master/slave Weekend, including Breath Play by Utah Rox and CBT 201 by Tandeer.
- September 8-13, 2010, Inferno XXXIX, Session A, serving Daddy Barry. He sounded with electricity for the first time. We both got to do clothespin zippers.
- September 10-14, 2008, Inferno XXXVII, Session A, serving Daddy Barry. We both participated in the hook pull with chest, cheek and brow piercings.
- August 2, 2008, initiated and presided over jay's earned Leathers recognition.
- February 23-25, 2007, SouthPlains Leatherfest - International Master/slave Weekend, served by slave jay
- September 24, 2006, Officer Wes & slave jay get CPR-Adult & Standard First Aid training (4th time & 3rd time, respectively, for Officer Wes)
- October 8, 2006, Officer Wes and dogslave bobby get a joyful boot care lesson from D.I. Mickey
- September 9-13, 2006, Inferno XXXV, Session B, served by dogslave bobby
- August 18, 2006, I hear about boy tim's death August 16 in Texas and attend the memorial.
- August 18-27, 2006, Daddy Barry & Stan take vacation to San Francisco, Hearst Castle, Big Sur, Cambria. On this birthday trip they break bread with Deputy & Chris and pup boy john. The whole family meets.
- July 10, 2006, voted in as an Associate Member to Chicago Hellfire Club
- July 5-7, 2006, Daddy & Charlotte visit San Diego and get to meet Daddy Barry and slave jay (dogslave was away on business)
- June 24, 2006, Daddy Barry collars his manboy, Officer Wes atop Mt. San Jacinto in Palm Springs
- June 2006, slave jay and dogslave whimper move next door
- May 6, 2006, friend Steve S. experiences a body piercing suspension by Adam L. after doing some preparatory back-hook work with Tom in December, and the hook pull in January. Adam made the beam, gathered the rigging, did the piercings, made the ties. Beautiful work and energy. Officer Wes and slave jay present.
- April 2006, noted as an influence in the book Protocols: A Service Handbook for the female slave by Bob Rubel
- March 18, 2006, Mr. San Diego Leather contest with Daddy Barry
- March 16, 2006, slave jay judges Knight of Leather contest; Officer Wes and whimper attending
- February 24-26, 2006, SouthPlains Leatherfest - International Master/slave Weekend served by dogslave, whimper
- Edge Play by Fifth Angel
- Bootblack Skillshare by boi Alex from Toronto
- January 28, 2006, Officer Wes hoods whimper the dogslave, puts him in the car, and drives three hours to rendezvous with Domasan for bondage and electro; topped off by breaking bread together for the Chinese New Year -- the year of the dog.
- January 7, 2006, slave jay, Steve S., doug, Adam L., Jack S. and scott do a body pull together; Officer Wes assisting
- October 22-30, 2005, bio family reunion at Disneyworld, served by slave jay
- June 11, 2005, Deputy exchanges vows with Chris, San Francisco
- May 12, 2005, humiliation play by Slave Dove for Club X
- March 31, 2005, mummification by Adam Latham for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- March 4, 2005, singletails by Mark O'Keefe for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- February 4, 2005, a passionate presentation on Hot Wax by Dino Garcia, Latin Leather Club, for San Diego League of Gentlemen. Kudos!
- December 3 - 5, 2004, Southwest Leather Conference, Phoenix
- Playing with Personas by Midori
- Leather Shamanics by slave robert
- Tantra Sensuality as Discipline by Brother William
- Dance of Souls: Flesh Hook Pull / Energy Pull / Spirit Dance
- November 17, 2004, STUFFING FOR THANKSGIVING: Fisting for Fisters and Fistees by Bill Freyer, Red Hankies of San Diego for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- October 20, 2004, Nipples & Nubs by Paul Salomon for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- October 17, 2004, I mark slave jay's slavery by putting a prince albert in by my own hands
- September 9 - 12, 2004, Inferno XXXIII, Session A
- August 7, 2004, hands-on presentation by Dan V. on sounds and catheters for San Diego's Pain Guild. Playful, mischievous, spirited, hot!
- July 10, 2004, hands-on presentation by Jeffrey Cooper, American Leatherman 2001, on Body Punching for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- June 16, 2004, Multiple Generations of Leather: Long Time Players with Mark Holmes (Mr. San Diego Leather 1984), Kai, Papa Tony & Mark O'Keefe (Mr. San Diego Leather 1997) for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- May 19th, 2004, Multiple Generations of Leather: The Next Generation at San Diego League of Gentlemen
- April 21, 2004, Meet Your Leather Representatives, hosted by Mr. San Diego Leather 2004 Adam Latham for San Diego League of Gentlemen. (Great turnout with Ms. San Diego Leather 2004 Karen Yew, American Leatherman 2003 Bill M., American Leatherwoman 2003 sheryl dee, International Mr. Deaf Leather 2003 Juan Zazueta, International Leather Sir 2003 Mike R., Wolf's pup 2003 jack, Mr. Leather San Diego 1992 [may be off a year] jay Barrett, & International Mr. Drummer 1993 Graylin Thornton.)
- March 2004, inducted as an inaugural core pig into SuperPigs
- March 10, 2004, Leatherboy Panel Discussion, featuring the San Diego boys of Leather at San Diego League of Gentlemen
- Spring 2004: American Sign Language classes
- February 25 - March 1, 2004 SouthPlains Leatherfest, including the International Master / slave contest, in Dallas, Texas
- Refining Service Movement by Catherine Gross
- Refining Fire: The Role of SM in Master/slave Relationships by Master Skip
- Creativity in SM by Brian Dawson
- Priest in Black Leather: Mastery as a Spiritual Calling by Master Skip
- SM in Pagan Ritual by Master Steve & slave kirk
- February 11, 2004, Mind $ucks by Mark Holmes, Mr. San Diego Leather 1984, for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- January 14, 2004, Daddies by Daddy Adam for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- December 10, 2003, Interrogation Play by American Leatherman 2003 Bill Mitchell for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- December 2, 2003, San Diego Latin Leather presentation on sounds by Sir Nicholas
- November 15, 2003, the 10th annual Ms. San Diego Leather contest
- October 8, 2003, Leather 102 presentation by Jeffrey Bays for San Diego League of Gentlemen
- September 4-7, 2003, Inferno XXXII Session A
- June 27 & 29, 2003, San Francisco Phoenix Uniform Club's 12th Annual Uniform & Leather Ball & San Francisco Pride
- April 13, 2003, a presentation at Pantheon West by Master Skip's slave Rick on the opening of his slave heart
- February 28 - March 02, 2003, SouthPlains Leatherfest, including the International Master / slave contest
- Breath Play by Mark Frazier
- The Care and Training of the Human Canine by Master Skip and pup Tim
- Keeping the Relationship Real by Mistress Blair
- International Master/slave Contest
- Symbolism and Archetypes in M/s Relationships by Master Skip
- February 21-22, 2003, San Diego Master and slave Conference
- Making it Real: Separating the Reality from Fantasy in 24/7 Relationships by Master Scott & slavette
- The Moving Box: Evolution and Change in M/s and D/s Relationships by Master Scott & slavette
- Dangers in the slave's Imagining of the Master: Richard [chatterton, who had recently committed suicide] Doesn't Live Here Any More by Roadkill
- Polyamorous Relationships: Emotional Edge Play by Master Scott & slavette
- October 11, 2002, "Mind Fuc$s" by Hardy H. for SAADE
- September 6-8, 2002, International Puppy Contest, Houston
- August 23, 2002, Master/slave relationships by Tom Stice for an open meeting of SAADE subs
- August 9, 2002, Rough Body Play by David D. and family for SAADE
- July 28, 2002, the Up Your Alley / Dore Alley fair, San Francisco
- July 12, 2002, Orgasm Control by patti, buttons & Bosk for SAADE
- May 10, 2002, sub/slave Training - Protocol Styles: Formal, European, Gorean, Old Guard by Siren, Roger, Theresa & Carolyn for SAADE
- April 12, 2002, Cuttings and Temporary Piercings by Hromovy for SAADE
- March 8, 2002, Introduction to Sub/Slave Training at SAADE
- February 15-17, 2002, Master's Retreat 3 in Dallas
- January 5-6, 2002: Group With No Name (GWNN)/SAADE Comprehensive Dungeon Monitor course, including CPR re-certification & medic first aid basic level (3rd time & 2nd time, respectively)
- November 9, 2001: TENS Work and Creating Affordable Attachments by Johnan at SAADE
- November 2001: NLA:Austin's Texas Leather Pride X (Austin), including these workshops/seminars
- Caning by David & suzi of Houston's Canemasters company
- Spirituality & BDSM by Sam J, Hardy Haberman, Kenny & Rachel
- Protocol in the 21st Century by Dean Walradt, Daddy Bob Keltner, & youngblood
- Dirty Talk by Alpha, Maitresse Elise & Piper
- September 2001: Visiting the vibrantly alive leathermen Master Steve of Butchmann's & family (Tucson)
- September 14, 2001: Violet Wands by David at SAADE
- September 7, 2001: Breakups in the BDSM Community / Building Better Relationships in the D/s Community by Mistress Alpha at SAADE
- August 10, 2001: Dynamite singletails presentation by Bamm! at SAADE. Ever see someone work with two singletails of different lengths in different hands -- and randomly changing hands -- while hitting the same spot? Exquisite.
- July 27-29, 2001: Master's Retreat 2001, Atlanta
- July 20, 2001: Fireplay presentation by George & Beth at SAADE
- May 11, 2001: Re-Adjusting the D/s Relationship by Austin's George & Beth and San Antonio's Bill & Pattie & john at SAADE
- March 9, 2001: How to Establish the D/s Relationship presentation by Hromovy at SAADE
- February 9, 2001: Spanking Basics presentation by Fred & Lin from San Antonio at SAADE
- September 30, 2000: NLA:Dallas' Beyond Vanilla X
- September 15-19, 2000: Delta 2K
- December 10-12, 1999: Facilitator at the first Master's Retreat in Dallas
- October 1999: I mark an event with boy tim by piercing him with a Prince Albert ("PA") by my own hands; Bearman graciously standing in as piercing coach
- October 1999: Leather University 401 (Ft. Lauderdale)
- Temporary Piercing 101 by Catherine Gross
- Single Tail 101 by Bill Costomiris and Dagan McKinney
- Catheters and Sounds 101 by JP Weir & Frank Theis
- Temporary Piercing 201 by Catherine Gross
- Fire Play 101 by Lolita Wolf
- May 1999: NLA:Austin's Texas Leather Pride VIII (Austin)
- April 1999: NLA:Houston's Spring Iniquity VIII
- March 18-21, 1999: Seventh International Master/slave Weekend & Contest (Atlanta), now incorporated into SouthPlains Leatherfest (Dallas)
- March 6, 1999: I was the Leather Knight for Don Gill's 5th annual AIDS fundraiser, "Night in Black Leather V"
- September 28, 1998: Second piercing (Prince Albert / "PA" by Vaughn at Body Manipulations)
- September 1998: Folsom Street Fair (San Francisco)
- May 1998: International Mr. Leather (Chicago)
- January 1998: Community CPR and Community First Aid and Safety training (2nd time & 1st time, respectively)
- November 1997: Beyond Vanilla (Dallas)
- Medical Play by Brock Frederickson, Perry Brown, Glenn Phillips
- The Family Jewels by Hardy Haberman, Ron Hertz
- September 1997: Folsom Street Fair (San Francisco)
- May 1997: Visiting my friends Robert & Mary Dante (Toronto)
- Mr. Texas Drummer contests
- 1999-2000 - Marty Brown
- 1997-1998 - Jeffrey Bays
- 1994-1995 - John Benavides
- 1993-1994 - Calvin Buckley
- 1992-1993 - Dean Walradt
- 1994: Mid Atlantic Leather
- 1994: The Leather Journal's Pantheon of Leather
- October 1993: NLA International's Living in Leather VIII (Houston)
- 1993: I am one of "Fifty masters and slaves [who] write explicitly about their S&M encounters" in Leathermen Speak Out Volume 2: An Anthology on Leathersex, edited by Jack Ricardo (Leyland Publications, San Francisco, CA, 1993). My section is pages 154-169, under the nom de plume "Kirk". The editor used standard questionnaires for the contributors to cover some common ground, and then strived to convert the questions and answers into an essay style. As a result, the writing can flow a bit awkwardly but it gets the point across.
- October 1992: First piercing (left nipple)
- October 1992: Dallas MC's Rosebud XII (Texas Conference of Club's Buzzards' Peak site near Waco). I lightly assist Michael Allen branding his slave David Engman.
- September 1992: Leather Pride Week (San Francisco), including Folsom Street Fair, Mr. Drummer activities and contest, and L/SM RoundUp
Tom, Officer Wes, David S., jacqui
- June 1992: Chain of Command run (outside San Antonio)
- May 1992: NLA:Austin's Texas Leather Pride (Austin)
- March 1992: Electricity presentation by The Colonel for People Exchanging Power
- 1992: Fantasy Dallas
- 1992: Lancers Motorcycle Club, associate member
- March 30, 1985: Bought chaps
- 1983: San Francisco trip
- 1979: Penthouse magazine 9/79, page 163: I see a photo taken inside a bar, "Leather night at Xenon" (photo by Nigel Ballard). There is no mention of "gay" yet there are only men in the picture. The only attire visible is leather / Levi. I know that I'm not alone.
- 1978: Initial cardio-pulmonary resuscitation (CPR) training
- 1974: I build a fort in the basement at age 11. I draw gauges and dials on a chalkboard in it. These, in my mind, control electrical impulses to other people's genitals.
Some leather folk I know / I've known
- Alan Chiras
- Ran NE AIDS Outreach, which included LeatherForce 2000. Deutsche AIDS Hilfe was the world's largest AIDS outreach to leathermen. LeatherForce 2000 was the 2nd largest HIV prevention based AIDS service organization in the world. In operation 4 years.
- Recipient of The Leather Journal's "Eastern Regional Award" 1994.
- Alan wrote five Sane Sex articles for Drummer, beginning with issue #146.
- Alan also has done television commercials for safe sex for leathermen for cable.
- Facilitator for the AIDS discussion group for the Leather/SM/Fetish contingent at the March on Washington, 1993.
- The dear, and hot, Alpha who owned Passionfruit Video, which made award-winning women-on-women erotica
- The late Armand Primeaux, IML contestant 1992, 1993
- Chuck Higgins
- Arkansas Mr. Leather, 1989
- Mr. Southeast Leather, 1990
- International Co-Chair of National Leather Association
- Chair, Spanner Defense and Education Fund Raiser (over $ 40,000 sent)
- Judging Panel at IML three separate years
- National Board Member: Gay and Lesbian American Medical Association (GLAMA)
- Fetish photographer Corwin of KinkMastery.com and Family are dear friends from Austin. He took these wonderful uniform photographs of Tom and me
- The late slave david stein, a man who was been of great service to my family through advice and friendship. slave david is the author of "Ask the Man Who Owns Him" (Perfect Bound Press, 2009), "Boots, Bondage, and Beatings" (Perfect Bound Press), and Carried Away: An S/M Romance (Daedalus Publishing, 2002), among other writings and substantial BDSM community life contributions.
- The late Dean Walradt, Mr. Texas Drummer 92-93, NLA:Houston founder, co-chair and president 1990-1994. Created "boy's Training Camp" and "Master's Retreat".
- The late Doug Harris, a good-hearted man who ran The Sanctuary in Atlanta for a decade.
- The late Emerson Briney, Mr. Drummer 1992.
- Hromovy is someone I got to know from presentations at "boy's Training Camp" and local leather groups. Hromovy is another uniform afficionado, with good resources. Plus Hromovy is an exceptional photographer.
- Jack Rinella, who makes a wealth of writings, including a weekly e-essay, available for free through his LeatherViews.com
- International Mr. Leather 1996 Joe Gallagher
- Joseph Bean, whose book Leathersex: A Guide For The Curious Outsider And The Serious Player was my favorite recommendation for gay men new to leather for many years
- Lenny Broberg, IML 1992
- Mary Dante,
- Ms. National Leather Association:International 1995
- co-winner of Pantheon of Leather's 1996 International Award
- featured on HBO's Real Sex and TVO's Studio Two
- columnist and co-publisher of Boudoir Noir Magazine
- Robert Dante, who co-created Boudoir Noir, a glossy magazine that showcased the BDSM lifestyle in the 90s. Interested in whips? Buy his BULLWHIP: Art of the Single Tail Whip.
- Master Skip & family
- SlaveMaster
- Master Steve, founder of BUTCHMANN'S SM Academy (now Butchmanns Experience: A Journey into Leather Heart and Spirit)
Leather books I've read
- Art of Raising a Puppy, The, by The Monks of New Skete (Little, Brown and Company, Boston, 1991)
- Ask Larry -- The collected "Leather Notebook" columns, by Larry Townsend (Masquerade Books, New York, 1995)
- Becoming a Slave -- The Theory & Practice of Voluntary Servitude, by Jack Rinella; with reflections by his slave Patrick (Rinella Editorial Services, Chicago, 2005)
- Bottoming Book, The; Or, How to Get Terrible Things Done to You by Wonderful People, by Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt (Greenery Press, San Francisco, 1995)
- Chainmale 3SM: A Unique View of Leather Culture, by Don Bastian (Daedalus Publishing Co., Los Angeles, 2002)
- Clips and Clamps, The Toybag Guide to, by Jack Rinella (Greenery Press, Oakland, 2004)
- Compleat Slave, The, (signed copy) by Jack Rinella (Daedalus Publishing Co., Los Angeles, 2002)
- Cop Speak: The Lingo of Law Enforcement and Crime, by Tom Philbin (John Wiley & Sons, New York, 1996)
- Extreme Space: The Domination and Submission Handbook, by F.R.R. Mallory (Unbound Books, Rohnert Park CA, 1998) The author's Web site was the excellent Steel Door Informational BDSM Site where she shared over 150 articles.
- Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment, by Hardy Haberman (Greenery Press, Emeryville CA, 2001)
- The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, by Gary Chapman (Northfield Publishing, Chicago, 2015)
(The author asserts that Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch are the five languages, and that we need to know what our partner values and learn to speak that language.)
- Flames of Passion: Handbook of Erotic Fire Play, by David Walker and Robert J. Rubel, PhD (The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, 2006)
- Flogging, by Joseph W. Bean (Greenery Press, Emeryville CA, 2000)
- Guide to Electric Sex, (Folsom Electric Company, San Francisco, 1996)
- Harley-Davidson Police Motorcycles, by Robert & Robin Genat (Motorbooks International, Osceola, Wisconsin, 1995)
- Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook, by Jay Wiseman (Greenery Press, San Francisco, 2000)
- Joy of Signing, The; Second Edition: The Illustrated Guide for Mastering Sign Language and the Manual Alphabet, by Lottie L. Riekehof (Gospel Publishing House, Springfield, Missouri, 1990)
- Juice: Electricity for Pleasure and Pain, by "Uncle Abdul" (Greenery Press, San Francisco, 1998)
- KUBARK Counterintelligence Interrogation, a 1963 interrogation manual the CIA released in response to a Freedom of Information request
- Learning The Ropes: A Basic Guide To Safe And Fun S/M Lovemaking (Version 2), by Race Bannon (Amazon, 2012)
Skip its introduction and preface and foreward and "Notes from the editor" and "A word about" sections and just jump into the meat in the book.- Leather and Latex Care: How to Keep Your Leather and Latex Looking Great, by Kelly Thibault (Daedalus Publishing Co., San Francisco, 1996)
- Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice, Mark Thompson, Editor (Alyson Publications, Boston, 1991)
- Leatherman's Handbook, The, by Larry Townsend (Carlyle Communications, New York, 1983)
- Leatherman's Handbook II, The, by Larry Townsend (Le Salon, San Francisco, 1972)
- Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player, by Joseph W. Bean (Daedalus Publishing Co., San Francisco, 1994)
This was my top suggestion for someone starting out (with Leatherfolk a strong contender for its broad history; and SlaveCraft a rich resource for potential slaves). Here's a short review.
In re-reading it in 2016, I found that it didn't age as well as I'd hoped- Leathersex Q&A: Questions About Leathersex and the Leather Lifestyles Answered, by Joseph W. Bean (Daedalus Publishing Co., San Francisco, 1996)
- Lesbian S/M Safety Manual, The, Pat Califia, Editor (Lace Publications an Imprint of Alyson Publications, Boston, 1988)
- Let's Get Cracking!: The How-To Book of Bullwhip Skills, by Robert Dante (Robert Dante, St. Louis Park MN, 2008)
- Master's Manual, The; A Handbook of Erotic Dominance, (signed copy) by Jack Rinella (Daedalus Publishing Co., San Francisco, 1994)
- Master/slave Mastery - Advanced: Refining the fire -- Ideas that matter, by Robert J. Rubel Ph.D and M. Jen Fairfield (Red 8 Ball Press, Austin, 2015)
- Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice, by Robert J. Rubel, PhD (The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, 2006)
This is a great book for Masters, especially the many helpful suggestions on planning/guiding/manifesting.- Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual, by Christina Abernathy (Greenery Press, San Francisco, 1996)
I was charmed by this book -- clear, constructive, specific, and yet concise.
==> I see that this, and its companion workbook which came out shortly later, are now available together as:
Erotic Slavehood: a Miss Abernathy omnibus, by Christina Abernathy (Greenery Press, 2013)- Modern Police Motorcycles in Action, by Robert Genet (MBI Publishing Company, Osceola WI, 1999)
- On The Safe Edge: A Manual for SM Play, by Trevor Jacques with Dr. Dale, Michael Hamilton, & Sniffer (WholeSM Publishing, Toronto, 1993)
- Philosophy in the Dungeon -- The Magic of Sex & Spirit, by Jack Rinella (Rinella Editorial Services, Chicago, 2006)
- Physical Interrogation Techniques, by Richard W. Krousher (Loompanics Unlimited, Port Townsend, WA, 1985)
- Power Circuits: Polyamory in a Power Dynamic, by Raven Kaldera (Alfred Press, Hubbardston MA, 2010)
- Protocols: Handbook for the female slave, by Robert J. Rubel, PhD (The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, 2006)
- Protocol Handbook for the Leather Slave: Theory and Practice, by Robert J. Rubel, PhD (The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, 2006)
- Radical Ecstasy, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (Greenery Press, Oakland CA, 2004)
This book was a delight to read -- open, accessible, deep, light; all at once.- Razor Edge Book of Sharpening, The, by John Juranitch (Warner Books, New York, 1985)
- Real Service, by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny (Alfred Press, Hubbardston MA, 2011)
- SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude -- Principles, Skills and Tools by Guy Baldwin (Daedalus Publishing Co., Los Angeles, 2002)
I highly recommend this for anyone wishing to manifest their slavery.- SOAKED! A Watersports Handbook for Men, by Joseph W. Bean (The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, 2004)
- Ties That Bind: The SM / Leather / Fetish Erotic Style; Issues, Commentaries and Advice, (signed copy) by Guy Baldwin, M.S. (Daedalus Publishing Co., San Francisco, 1993)
- Topping Book, The; Or, Getting Good at Being Bad, by Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt (Greenery Press, San Francisco, 1995)
- TRUST -- The Hand Book: A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing, (signed copy) by Bert Herrman (Alamo Square Press, San Francisco, 1991)
- Urban Aboriginals - a celebration of leathersexuality, by Geoff Mains (Gay Sunshine Press, San Francisco, 1991)
- WOOF! Perspectives into the Erotic Care & Training of the Human Dog, by Michael Daniels (A Boner Book, The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, 2003)
Some spiritual books I've read
- Buddhism for Beginners, by Thubten Chodron (Snow Lion Publications, Ithaca, New York, 2001)
- Various recovery literature, including Living Clean, It Works How and Why, Narcotics Anonymous, The Narcotics Anonymous Step Working Guides, Alcoholics Anonymous, and Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
- Velveteen Rabbit, The, by Margery Williams (Delacorte Press, New York, 1922 and 1991)
- Way Of The Peaceful Warrior, by Dan Millman (H J Kramer, New York, 1980)
- Zen of Recovery, The, by Mel Ash (Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam, New York, 1993)
Books I'm reading
- Beyond Obedience: For all who are called to Mastery, Ownership, slavery, surrender & service, by SlaveMaster & slave 7 (Amazon, 2016)
Leather and spiritual books I've bought or been given but haven't started reading yet
- Dictionary of Scene-Friendly Terms, The, by Jack Rinella (Rinella Editorial Services, Chicago, 2008)
- Ethical Slut, The: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities, by Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt (Greenery Press, San Francisco, 1997)
- Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot, by Carol Queen (Down There Press, San Francisco, 1995)
- Four Agreements, The: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz (Amber-Allen Publishing, San Rafael, CA, 1997)
- Hero With a Thousand Faces, The, by Joseph Campbell (Bollingen Foundation, Inc. 1949)
- Leather Contest Guide, The: A Handbook for Promoters, Contestants, Judges and Titleholders, by Guy Baldwin (Daedalus Publishing Co., San Francisco, 1993)
- Power of Myth, The, by Joseph Campbell with Bill Moyers (Apostrophe S. Productions, 1988)
- Sexuality and Spirituality, with the Kundalini Yoga Sets and Meditations of Yogi Bhajan, by Dr. Gururattan Kaur Khalsa and Ann Marie Maxwell (Yoga Technology Press, Coronado, CA, 1989)
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